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One part of the pattern used to match your answers with a NUMA result.
10 · Relationships
Your Relationship Pattern
How you balance closeness, reassurance and independence when a bond starts to matter.
12 questions3 minutes5 signals
Choose the answer that feels most instinctive. There are no right answers—and no clinical labels.
About this free test
What does this test explore?
Relationship patterns appear in the distance between wanting closeness and feeling safe inside it. Reassurance, autonomy, vulnerability and regulation shape that experience.
NUMA is attachment-style adjacent but non-diagnostic. It describes a current pattern without assigning a clinical or fixed category.
Five signals
Reassurance
One part of the pattern used to match your answers with a NUMA result.
Autonomy
One part of the pattern used to match your answers with a NUMA result.
Vulnerability
One part of the pattern used to match your answers with a NUMA result.
Regulation
One part of the pattern used to match your answers with a NUMA result.
After your result
Use the pattern,
not the label.
Use the result to discuss consistency, space and reassurance. Patterns can shift between relationships and as trust changes.
Questions people ask
Is this an attachment style test?
It explores related themes, but NUMA does not diagnose or assign a clinical attachment category.
Can relationship patterns change?
Yes. Safety, experience and the specific relationship can all change them.
How should I answer?
Choose what you usually do in close relationships, not one exceptional moment.